Renewed Passion

Question: My husband and I have been married for seven years, and well, intimacy is not what it used to be. We do not have a normal sex life. We have discussed it together, and we both agree it has been so long that we've almost forgotten how to start. We are both a little scared that we might not do it right. I want to initiate the intimacy, but I'm afraid. I don't want to be rejected. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and definitely used.

Answer: The fear of rejection is a very powerful obstacle to overcome. It really is a case of mind over matter, because if you go into this seduction thinking you're going to be turned down, chances are you will be. Take some time to remember all the positive experiences you've had together. Use those great memories to boost your confidence. Men really like a confident woman! Once you've got your ego in check, try one of these fun and creative ideas to initiate your next love play.

Whip up some body paint using chocolate syrup, pudding or other sauces you both love. Bring a blindfold, a paint brush, and a clean sheet. Blindfold your partner and begin painting. When your masterpiece is complete, switch and let him paint you. This idea allows you to explore (through painting) each other's body's again in a non-threatening environment (you're blindfolded).

Cut up some of your favorite fruits and have that blindfold and sheet handy again. Blindfold your partner and then lay down on the sheet and place the fruit in your body. When you're ready, tell your partner to begin eating the fruit The catch is, he can only use his mouth to find it. Again, this idea gives you both an opportunity to rediscover each other in a fun setting.

Build up anticipation for a night of love play by hosting a lingerie show for two. You can do this in the privacy of your bedroom, or spice it up a bit and take him with you to try on the latest lingerie fashions at a store. Reward him for his good behavior by letting him pick his favorite to bring home for your rendezvous.