I was dating this girl right after she got divorced from a three year abusive relationship. Everything started out fast and great. We spent all of our time together. We went on dates kept it neat and fun. And then all of a sudden after 3 months she tells me we need to talk and she doesn't want a boyfriend right now. She said she needs her space and time to meet knew people and friends. So, now it's like I've lost my best friend. I still talk to her occasionally. It's been over a month now. How much time does she need? I don't know. I've never been married or divorced. We are both 25 and have no kids. I know it must be a difficult healing process and I am willing to wait. What should I do? -Heart Broken In Omaha

Dear Heart Broken In Omaha,
Rebound relationships can be very tricky, especially when the previous relationship was abusive or extremely rocky. You could be the best possible match for her, and she would still probably deny herself the opportunity for a relationship. After a long, negative relationship the need for comfort and acknowledgement is fierce. Your attention and constant availability was probably just the thing she needed to be able to start meeting new people and friends. I don't know how long it takes to get over the type of situation she was in; sometimes people never get over it. What I do know is that she probably needs a friend more than a lover right now. I would talk to her and let her know how much you enjoy spending time with her regardless of the fact that it will be only as friends. Then, let her know that you are willing to wait until she's ready to pursue something more.

With Love,

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