I am deeply in love with my ex-boyfriend. We have no contact whatsoever. He lives with another woman. I tried to get over him. I saw him somewhere the other day, and the feelings I had for him were rekindled. Now I am back in love with him and I want him back. I don't know what to do, I am so confused. Please understand this situation and help me out. Thank you! -Still In Love With Him

Dear Still In Love With Him,
I believe that in a sense you never really stop loving anyone. It may not be the same kind of love, but deep down there is still some sort of affinity towards the person. In many situations it may be this belief that causes people to hold on to a past love so strongly. I'm sure you've heard the saying, "If you love someone set them free, if it was meant to be they will come back to you." Unfortunately, in most cases of separation it really wasn't meant to be. If a relationship has ended, chances are there were good reasons for it, either on your side or the other person's.

In every situation you are in there is a lesson for you to learn, otherwise you wouldn't be in that situation! Figure out what your lesson was with this person, and close the door. It isn't going to help you in the future to be focusing on the past. Your time in the present and the future is where your attention should be placed. Join a social group or a singles club. Something like the Sierra Club might be just what you need. Or, join a group that supports a cause you are sympathetic to. You never know how many interesting people, or men, you will find who have the same interests. Above all, recognize that life doesn't begin anew by looking at the past. It begins with a sense of adventure and willingness to be in the present looking towards the future.

With Love,

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